叛逆無法？HD五法的運用

The Application of Five Rules of the Habitual Domains (HD) to Deal with the Rebellious Youth

本文旨在探討運用「習慣領域學說(HD)」來解析青少年的叛逆期，並應用HD諸項原理或法則，來對應教育心理學上各種輔導理論與方法，以求得更豐富多角化的解釋，並做有效多元的應用。研究發現顯示：習慣領域學說中的五項法則，有其創意性及有效性，正可應付孩子叛逆期的特殊性情與行為，例如：HD的「循環進化原理」告訴我們叛逆期是必經的、有其理由的，所以父母要有「陪他一段」的心理準備；HD「內部聯繫原理」告訴我們了解對方習慣領域核心的重要性，所以父母要用「積極聆聽法」來與子女做有效溝通；HD「交換原理」告訴我們靈活運用原理與法則的必要性，所以父母要孩子改正過失時，可以用「我--的訊息法」來取代「你--的訊息法」，比較有效；HD「改變參數」告訴我們唯有改變有關因素，才會有不同的結果，所以父母應改變有關參數，來因應孩子叛逆期的特殊個性與需求；HD「有效重新結構」告訴我們大腦有能力迅速轉化我們的思維，所以父母與孩子遇有衝突時，宜以「協議解決法」來促使雙方共同改變某種態度與行為，以施行共贏的親子互動，創造良好的親子關係。結之，HD五種法則的有效運用，是突破孩子叛逆期似乎是「無法無天」的迷思，可創造出親子共贏的局面。

This paper aims to explore the applications of the theory of “Habitual Domains (HD)＂ to understand and manage young rebels.The findings suggest that: the five rules of HD can interpret and deal with the special nature of child rebellion and misbehaviors. For example: HD's ＂Revolving and Cycling Principle＂ tells us that rebellion is a necessary stage of life passage with its reasons， so parental companion is necessary. HD’s ＂Inner Connection Principle ＂ tells us about the importance of connection to the core of other person’s HD， so the parents could use ＂Active Listening Method＂ to communicate with their children. HD’s ＂Alternating Principle＂ leads us to apply principles and rules with flexibility， so once the parents have to correct children’s mistakes， it is more effective to use ＂I - Message method＂. HD’s ＂Method of Changing Parameters＂ indicates that parents should change parameters of attitudes and strategies as to cope with the children in rebellious period. HD’s ＂Efficient Restructuring Hypothesis＂ tells us that our brains have the ability to restructure relevant information efficiently when conflict among parents and children occur， parents could adopt the ＂Agreement Resolution Act＂ to create a win-win parent-child relationship.In short， HD’s five rules can be used efficiently and effectively to deal with the rebellious children， as to create win-win relations among parents and children.